For the Girls Alone!

Time is changing fast and so are traditions too. Girls are no longer a weaker segment of society. They have now equal opportunities for education, careers, and making decisions of choice in their lives. Opportunities and options are abundant and some are For the Girls Alone!

The system still takes extra care but it is no more discrimination but an extra layer of safety. It varies from family to family depending upon various factors like social status, literacy level, and family traditions. You just can face it but fighting it all the way is not feasible, hence not recommended.

Trust the Little Innocence

A general impression is that in Eastern societies like ours, the parents and the society in third world countries put very little, sometimes absolutely no trust in growing girls. Though not fully valid, the assumption is not altogether false. The girls are typically overprotected in the East. This is For the Girls Alone!, because of its origins in the tribal system. It was a matter of pride for the people in the past.

The Silver Lining

On the basis of my very own experience, I can simply suggest that there is still a great deal for girls facing such issues. You have all the right to have big dreams and there are now ways for you to make your dreams come true even without leaving the comfort of your home.

The world is now a click away. You really have no option to mourn in self-pity. You have a lot to do if you have a serious plan, vision, and commitment. “I am not being supported” can no more be justified. This is nothing but self-cheating. You are born to aim high and live your dreams. You can do whatever you want to but only if you think you can.

Discover the Real You!

Girls, you are the only hurdle in your way. you need to change the way, you think, act, react, and interact with others. It will work as your antivirus erasing the corrupted files from your mind and leaving behind the smart, neat charming personality that you need to be. Just sort out your weaknesses, You don’t have any, do you think?

Fine every wise person thinks it so but remember this is the fatal mistake. Everyone has grey shades of personality. Better to find it as early as you can. Come close to your mentor once you start realizing it. The best-ever mentor in the case of girls is the Mother alone, sometimes assisted by your elder sisters if you are the privileged one to have them.

Mother! Your Best Friend Ever

Who is my best friend? It seems to be an easy question but perhaps a difficult one to answer correctly. You naturally will start looking among your age fellows. But the real answer lies in the fact that who knows you exactly? That’s no other than you, Mom!

Only she knows you better than you know about yourself. She even knows you since the time you were nothing important enough to be known. So come close to your friend. She has a lot more collective wisdom compiled of her very own and the experiences of many others much wiser than you can be in the time to come.

Trust her by sharing each of your facts, follies, secrets, objectives, plans, choices, and whatnot. You never will regret it. Take my word for a guarantee that the super mentor will never issue a hefty invoice as her consultancy fee but the little household chores to help with.  

Regrets in Life

We surely are strange people. In most cases, careers are not our choices but are being imposed upon us by the compulsion of society and parents. Lucky ones are the people who find their passion turning into their profession. The majority of our youth have been pushed into the degrees and professions they hate.

Keep aside the regrets if you are one of the victims. Regrets affect your productivity putting you on the sidelines of your competitors. Never spoil yourself if the professional environment and qualifications do not match what you dreamt of in life.

Just be courageous enough and discipline yourself to turn the table around. You can win with little adjustments in life, a bit of molding your routines and making your mark on the grounds can conquer.

Sentiments not Being Sentimental

There is a big gap between “what you want” and “what you get”

Yahan kisi ko bhi kuch hasb e arzoo na mila
Kisi ko hum na milay aur hum ko tu na mila
(Nobody ever find the choice)
I lost you, and me your loss)

Sentiments are what makes us human but becoming sentimental is a weakness, the hurdle in your way to leading a balanced life. Focusing on an issue gives you the strength to find a solution.

Swim Opposite the Stream

Flowing away from the stream of emotions is obviously not acceptable these days. It’s the right turn in life to take emotional intelligence seriously. You never get what you deserve; you only get what you negotiate. Take the high road negotiate on your terms and leave the table earliest if respect is not being served.

Feel free to apply this principle every time you need it, given the conditions. Another way around this is to tackle things more logically when you can hardly think of anything but emotions.

Never Settle for Less

There are many ways to balance rationality and emotions. Invest your time in the things you like to do. Paint up the canvas; bake your favorite macrons, and read those books you always wanted to. Talk to people as you may learn from a vast, wider human library.

Be very choosy when it comes to handing out your emotions and care to be a good listener. You can serve as a listener at an online therapy form to make people feel better through your experiences. You are not a pressure cooker, you have to steam out the suffocation. Meditation is key.

The best you can do for yourself is to love your amazing soul, body, and personality unconditionally. The eyes reading this piece deserve nothing less than a sight of success, applause, cheers, stars, and a fairy light of congratulations.

Let’s not settle for less. Spread it to the ladies you love. Let’s stick to sis code and cheer up someone around. Chin up buttercup, This crown of lady needs to stand firm and high. The world is yours now. There is a lot to explore that is For the Girls Alone!

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Urza Omar
  • Urza Omar
  • The writer has a proven track as a mentor, motivational trainer, blogger, and social activist. She is the founder of a blog intended for avid readers.